Do you often judge other people? Surely many of us have done it at least once, and some of us do it almost all the time. But why does it happen? And how to overcome such a habit?

 

Judging people is not necessarily a negative evaluation, as many people believe. Often condemnation is carried out subjectively, that is, without analyzing the situation because of which a person has caused disapproval. His actions, traits, or behavior are viewed negatively, they cause censure, misunderstanding, and sometimes disgust. But such judgments are not always justified. So, why do we judge other people? The reasons for this behavior can be different, and here are some of them:

 

1. Increased self-esteem, so-called decompensation. Very few people manage to live and behave correctly and according to the laws of morality, and each of us has the right to make a mistake. But in order not to blame and not to consider oneself bad, proving to oneself that everything is not so bad, many people begin to evaluate the actions of others and, of course, find flaws in them. And judgment becomes a way to convince themselves that there are worse people out there.

2. Stereotypical thinking. What used to be considered unacceptable and immoral gradually becomes normal and commonplace. Unfortunately, that's the way life is. But not all changes are so disastrous for society, as many people believe.

3. Inability to objectively assess the situation. Many begin to condemn others without even delving into the situation, because of which the opinion is wrong.

4. Banal envy. Yes, and it can also push condemnation. So, if you are jealous of your neighbor who has an expensive car, you will probably look for reasons to belittle him in your own eyes. And you will find many reasons to do this, and the most different: from improper (probably only in your opinion) parking to overweight or greedy. This reason, by the way, is especially common among women, and for them often the subject of both envy and judgment is appearance.

5. A way of manipulation. If we bark at a person for something or accuse him, then, in this way, develop a sense of guilt, and psychologists on the degree of impact on the psyche are often compared to fear. Condemned begins to consider himself guilty, worthless, sinful, or inferior and therefore easily succumbs to any influences, because he can begin to believe that to do something on his own and without someone's advice simply can not. In addition, he is willing to do anything to prove to others (especially those who criticize him) and to himself that he is worth something and is not as bad as people think he is.

6. Not accepting one's shortcomings or actions. Often we refuse to see and accept our "sins." And to make sure they are insignificant, we start "digging" into the lives of others and, of course, find a lot of bad and reprehensible things in them. And that makes us feel better.

How to break such a bad habit?

1. Realize that no one is perfect, everyone is very different, and every person has the right to make mistakes. After all, mistakes are an invaluable experience. And risks or rash actions sometimes lead to achievements. Just understand this and accept this thought, let it become one of the principles of life for you.

2. Learn to analyze the situation. Before criticizing and condemning a person, try to understand why he acted or behaved the way he did. Probably, he just had no other choice, or he was trying to protect someone. Always try to put yourself in the other person's shoes and then you will probably evaluate their life differently.

3. Try to free your thinking from stereotypes. And this is not easy if you live in your world and are not in contact with others, and do not know what is happening in the world. And to understand that everything is changing (and sometimes dramatically), communicate more, learn something new, travel, and develop yourself. Then you will start to look at life and people differently.

4. Try to make it so that you simply do not have time for judgment. If you live a full, bright, and interesting life, have a fulfilling job, family, and time for hobbies such as gambling at live blackjack, you simply will not care about the actions and behavior of others. Yes, and topics for conversations with friends and family will always be found.

5. Raise your self-esteem. Doing it is sometimes not so easy, but still possible. To do this, improve, develop, do as many good deeds as possible, and help people.

6. Learn not to judge, but to offer help. Probably, the person who deserves your condemnation has made a mistake or committed stupidity, after which he regretted it and does not know how to change the situation. It is likely that your help will be useful and will help to make things better or correct mistakes.

7. Before you give someone a negative evaluation, analyze your behavior and think about how you would behave in such a situation. You may be no better than the person you are about to judge, and that should stop you.

 

Learn to live your own life and not interfere in other people's lives, after all, what happens to you is not the same as what happens to the other person. Be kinder and more polite and stop judging other people!